![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
A new entrant to Spinners--End just called me "kind and gentle".
Um.
I can only hope they don't often encounter me directly after this point (accepting their group join request). I mean, I don't try to be an ass, but it seems I often succeed in sticking my foot in my mouth and coming off insensitive or rude when I'm merely trying to correct someone on something factual (which I know intellectually is not something everyone appreciates, but which I find very, very hard to stop myself doing) or just trying to point out another possible point of view or an interesting-to-me detail someone might have missed even when I agree with their overall point. (Ravenclaw much?) Thus, the general effect of my personality is pretty much the opposite of kind and gentle, rather coming off critical and excessively negative.
This is somewhere between sorrowing and annoying, because to me certain kinds of criticisms or sarcasm are offers of friendship or at least intellectual engagement, and they're often rebuffed with the equivalent of "dude, aren't you some kind of bitch". Irony ensues because I have a hard time taking criticism myself, but it depends on the context and how it's phrased. Correcting me on something factual is usually a safe bet.
um. unintentional personality-revealment there. well, now you know.
Um.
I can only hope they don't often encounter me directly after this point (accepting their group join request). I mean, I don't try to be an ass, but it seems I often succeed in sticking my foot in my mouth and coming off insensitive or rude when I'm merely trying to correct someone on something factual (which I know intellectually is not something everyone appreciates, but which I find very, very hard to stop myself doing) or just trying to point out another possible point of view or an interesting-to-me detail someone might have missed even when I agree with their overall point. (Ravenclaw much?) Thus, the general effect of my personality is pretty much the opposite of kind and gentle, rather coming off critical and excessively negative.
This is somewhere between sorrowing and annoying, because to me certain kinds of criticisms or sarcasm are offers of friendship or at least intellectual engagement, and they're often rebuffed with the equivalent of "dude, aren't you some kind of bitch". Irony ensues because I have a hard time taking criticism myself, but it depends on the context and how it's phrased. Correcting me on something factual is usually a safe bet.
um. unintentional personality-revealment there. well, now you know.
no subject
Date: May 7th, 2010 12:19 pm (UTC)From:And this isn't exactly a personality revelation to me. I knew all this about you and like you anyway, so there!
no subject
Date: May 7th, 2010 09:14 pm (UTC)From:They're not necessarily; this goes for anywhere in life. But yes, I do find it bitterly amusing in that context.
no subject
Date: May 7th, 2010 09:46 pm (UTC)From:Well that depends. . . who are you being compared to? XD
Don't look too hard at that sort of thing. Seriously.
I tend to surround myself with blunt people in RL, I like their honesty.